Why do I keep giving in to sex?

Vintage Message: Hello, Laura. I recently bought your's and Kemper's book, and I absolutely love it. After skimming through it, I felt pushed to contact you about a perosnal issue. For starters, I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. Our first 2-3 years of dating, we were giving into temptations which lead to a sexual relationship. A couple of years ago we both found Christ together. We are now both strongly rooted in Christ and have been pursuing a Christ-centered relationship except for the fact that we still struggle with sexual…
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but what if...

Question: Dear Laura, I know that premarital sex is wrong, but if I know that my long-term boyrfriend is the person I want to marry, is it still wrong? What if people are engaged and sexually active? Reply: Hi! Thank you for writing to me! I am grateful for your question! You are not alone in your query. So many girls will benefit from what we get to learn from God together! Thank you for initiating the conversation. YOU actually answered the question for yourself. It's just doubt has been inserted where you know TRUTH resides. Sex was…
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seemingly perfect.

Dear Laura, I was recently talking to a guy who was seemingly perfect. He loves God; he respected me; he was kind and just amazing...but it didn't work out. I have a lot of...shall we say...standards? when it comes to guys, and he couldn't really hand that...I'm finding it hard to find someone who can. Reply: Well, my friend - first of all...let me tell ya, your high standards are probably not even high enough. Marriage requires the character and love that only Jesus possesses. So, as you consider the rest of your life with one man, I…
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the way...

Dear Laura, I met a man who I am so sure is my future husband. I look at him, Laura, and I just know. We have been dating for a while now and today I told him about a past with an old friend. Me and my friend had never been together, we were nothing more than friends. However, when I told my boyfriend today, he was very upset and feels hurt and stupid and betrayed. I, of ALL people, should not make him feel that way! I have so much guilt and pain in my heart. He always gives me one thousand and ten percent and I feel like I have failed him.…
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looking for love

Comfort - 1. to give strength and hope to: cheer; 2. To ease the grief or trouble of: to console. "Therefore if there is any encouragement in Christ, if there is any consolation (COMFORT) of love, if there is any fellowship of the Spirit, if any affection and compassion, make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit intent on one purpose. Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves, do not look out for your own…
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refreshed.

"As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, my God." Psalm 42 Have you ever gone on a hike? a long hike? If you have ever hiked a long distance - then you understand the value of water on such a trek. Water is critical to the success of the hike. The scenery could be incredulous - but if you do not have water, you might as well forget about enjoyment. Thirst - deep down thirst is a joy robber. Jesus knows - more than anyone - that we will grow tired and thirsty in our travels with Him. He, himself, in flesh, felt tired…
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worship.

We miss it. Daily we miss the priceless, intimate, sacrificial gift that is our worship to The God of the Universe. Within our grasp - a gift that is ours to give to God; a gift to offer HIM, that He - THE ALL-SUFFICIENT GOD - would actually want and cherish... That mere flesh and blood - a woman - YOU and I - hold something that HE - our God - considers of greatest value... seems so incomprehensible - and yet within us so apparently clear. This gift is our will. And delicately poised on the moment of longing we deeply desire to let it go.…
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online match maker.

Hello, Laura. Thank you so much for sharing honest relatioship truth with us. I was wondering about your opinion about online church dating sites. Thank you! Hey! Thanks for your message! Great question! Online dating - "dating" specifically - is not a biblical issue. However, widsom is. God's people seeking wisdom that He can give in our relationships - THAT is a Biblical issue. SO - having said that - let's hit this issue together seeking wisdom from the word of God. Allow me to grab some Scripture for us - to guide our thinking.…
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his point of view.

Hi, Laura. My boyfriend and I broke up, and I wanted to ask you some questions about what he said. He told me that we could not hold hands or hug, and that's all we ever did because he didn't believe we should kiss either. But, he told me that holding hands and hugging was not "right" in dating from God's point of view and that it is bad to do this. Yes, I believe if it is going to lead to other things it isn'r right, but we were both strong in our faith and that's all that we ever did. I was just wondering if it truly states anywhere in…
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Warning

, Dear Laura, I have something heavy on my heart I wanted to share with you. Maybe you could share it with some of the girls at Vintage...? I am in the midst of the "married with little kids crowd" - the crowd I dreamed of being in when I was a young(er) woman of Vintage age. And for the most part, I am enjoying what God is teaching me. I love it, and wouldn't trade being married to my love for anything. I could use a little less boogers though. Sadly, there are a lot of women whom I have come in contact with whose fairy tale of married…
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